I hate the unknown. With us moving in a few days and birthing in about 10 weeks, there is a lot you could say that is unknown. Such as:
* Where in the world are we going to put all the stuff that we've accumulated over 5 years?
* Uh, what do contractions exactly feel like?
* How big is the epidural needle? And are all of the bad things that could happen with that process likely to actually happen?
* How does the whole forwarding of address process work at the post office? I really enjoy my mail!
* Where exactly is Brynlee going to sleep? And where will we hang all of her precious little dresses and put her tiny little shoes?
* What is Rusty Roo going to do all day now that he won't have people walking by our house to watch or fire engines screaming down the streat to howl at?
* How is Tyler going to work, go to school, build a house, spend time with his new precious cargo, AND hang out with the asian woman that he calls honey?
Now, if you're Tyler, you simply tell me to not worry about the things that are beyond my control, or about things that could or could not happen...WELL, I'm a women and that's what I think we do very well (if not perfectly) is worry.
I also have a lot to be grateful for. And the other night in our prayers I wanted to be sure to thank for those things that I don't have to worry about. There are so many who have to worry about where they will get their next meal, how they will keep warm for the night, how much longer a loved one has to live, and so on. My worries actually seem miniscule when compared to those worries...so I am REALLY trying to focus on everything that I have to be grateful for...such as:
* A wonderful Mom and Grandma Bates who came and helped me pack up pretty much our whole entire house today.
* A wonderful Mom-in-Law who is right now rearranging her whole house/life for us to move in and invade.
* Caring neighbors and friends who have offered any help they can give. Just their offering is a blessing enough.
* A patient husband, who I have yet to see get stressed out about this move.
* A healthy baby who I love a lot already!
* The gospel that brings so much stability and peace in this crazy world!
* A job that I love!!!
* Marie & Katie for working for me this whole week, to lessen my stress levels.
* Yummy food!
Today I got home and got a little overwhelmed so I decided to calm my self and read something spiritual. I typed into the search engine of LDS.org: "Life Changes"....and came up with this talk called "Finding Joy in the Journey" by President Monson. Ok, can you say perfectly what I needed to read. You can read it here: PRESS HERE
Here are some points that I enjoyed:
* "The difference between the changes in my life and the changes in yours is only in the details. Time never stands still; it must steadily march on, and with the marching come the changes."
* "I plead with you not to let those most important things pass you by as you plan for that illusive and nonexistent future when you will have time to do all that you want to do. Instead, find joy in the journey—now."
* "My brothers and sisters, there is no tomorrow to remember if we don’t do something today....Of course, there is no going back, but only forward. Rather than dwelling on the past, we should make the most of today, of the here and now, doing all we can to provide pleasant memories for the future."
* "Stresses in our lives come regardless of our circumstances. We must deal with them the best we can. But we should not let them get in the way of what is most important—and what is most important almost always involves the people around us. Often we assume that they must know how much we love them. But we should never assume; we should let them know."
* "Despite the changes which come into our lives and with gratitude in our hearts, may we fill our days—as much as we can—with those things which matter most. May we cherish those we hold dear and express our love to them in word and in deed."
This makes me excited to watch conference this weekend! Luv Sara.
Oh Sara, you are so cute! I totally understand how you are feeling. All that is going on in life is magnified by those darn pregnancy hormones!:) Everything will be all right and will be wonderful. I can't wait for you to have sweet little Brynlee, you will be the best Mom!
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Oh and trust me, the epidural is NOTHING compared to the pain you feel with contractions.
Everything will work out, even though it is stressful, I remember doing this same go around with Taven. Hang in there and let us know if there is anything we can do.
oops and I wrote my post before it clicked with me the worries about contraction pains. In that case, get the epidural as soon as you can, then you'll never know. :)
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o man....first of all, you will find out soon enough what contractions feel like, and they are the least of your worries, second of all don't overwork yourself! Remind everyone that you are prego and you really don't have to do much....we don't get this 9 month opportunity often so milk it! oh and I never even saw my epidural needle....or really felt it, either way all I remember is sleeping peacefully after words, while i was in full- on labor...it was bliss!
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ReplyDeleteOh, I remember all that going on inside me head. Like the others have said, you will know when you have a real contraction and don't give yourself the chance to look at the epidural needle. They numb the area before they give you the epidural anyways. Oh, and by the time you get to child number 2 it'll be a breeze. I didn't even have a bag packed when I went into labor with Aaron. I called my mom to come get me (since J was MIA) and then wandered around the house trying to remember what I was supposed to pack ;) Tyler is so sweet to you. husbands are great to stick with us through those hormonal 9 months.
ReplyDeleteThis is such a beautiful post. I am so grateful we are friends.
ReplyDeleteYou are the same as always. So positive and sweet about anything that comes at you. I am glad we are friends...now we just need to start hanging out!
ReplyDeleteI am glad I could help! Call me anytime...I might be quittig soon..SAD:( We have been looking at houses the whole week. We found something, if we get it we close on the 29th of April...There is no way I want to pull a Lucinda and drive from Utah County...
ReplyDeleteHere's hoping you guys are getting settled in, and finding opportunities to rest!
ReplyDeleteIt's fun to listen to you wondering about childbirth and motherhood too. It reminds me of how exiting and scary the weeks before giving birth are. Especially your first time.
As for things that can happen, I remember being in a birthing class with 10 moms-to-be and they pointed out that about one in four births are by c-section. I remember figuring out how many of us would be doing that and thinking, "Okay I guess it's something I should consider, even though I'm probably going to have a very normal experience." A week later I ended up having an emergency c-section that saved Will and myself from the unthinkable.
I was glad I had somewhat prepared myself ahead of time because from the time I was in a warm hospital bed where the decision was made, to the time I was naked on the operating table was 30 minutes. Not much time to prepare. So you're smart to think about it ahead of time.
Then Will was immediately whisked off to the NICU for a week, which altered my expectations even further. (Howie ended up in NICU for a week too) But I'm so thankful for modern technology and knowledge. You know my kids well, and you'd probably never guess at the challenges we encountered at birth. We've all obviously fully recovered. (Except that I'll never be a size 6 again. *sigh*)
The great news is that c-sections and so many other medical procedures regarding birth are just no big deal anymore. It's so unlikely that anything permanently disabling could happen to you or your sweet baby.
And seriously, Heavenly Father will make you strong enough to handle anything you have to do to take care of your daughter. (Whether or not you believe that at the time) He will qualify you to do this job. And when you hold that beautiful, fragile angel in your arms, any struggles you've had will seam very inconsequential, almost a pleasure in order to have such a blessing and privilege in your life.
Besides that, you and I both have the advantage of a loving, supportive husband by our side. Thank heaven we don't have to go through this stuff alone!!
Good luck. May Heavenly Father bless you. Your daughter is so lucky to be coming to your family!!
Wow! Sorry that was so long!
ReplyDeleteOh...that was so sweet and so touching. It was just what I needed right now. To know that other moms/women feel the same way I do, at times!! I'm going to go read that article now!!! Thanks. :) PS- It all works out!!! :)
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